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Follow The Flow In Your Day. Each Day May Be Different. Expand. Listen. Create. Lend A Hand. Stand In Solidarity. Be Moved. Routine Has Taken A Pause For Now. What Moves You To Action? Are You Inspired To Create, Start A Petition, Design A New Program, Do Some Work On Your Own Mental Fitness, Create Some Space For Reflection Or Time With God. What Is Speaking To Your Heart And Challenging You To Believe You Can Be More Of The Person You Truly Are?
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I Can Surely Say I am Flowing In My Writing, And My Most Creative And Inspiring Place. I Am Preparing And Being My Most Creative Self For Purpose. Part of My Purpose Includes Inspiring And Working With You.
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To Be A Part Of Change Happening In Our World Today, Here Are A Few Resources To Check Out To Get Involved Or Locate Support:
Additional Resources Will Be Added Weekly:
Generational Trauma, Systemic Racism. and Violence Need To Be Addressed for Emotional Healing To Take Place. Environments That Are Safe Promote Healing For Marginalized Black Communities And A Place For Communities And Our World To Heal Together.
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Change Can Be Inspired Through How We Vote and In Legislation We Vote On:
Our Democracy – Hold The Line: https://holdthelineguide.com/
Pull Up For Change: Calling On Organizations And Brands For Having A Non-Diverse Staff In Leadership Roles While Fighting For Economic Opportunities for Black People
Direct action movement – Pull Up For Change gave brands 72 hours after posting a message of support to release the number of Black employees on staff, and then asked customers to refrain from shopping with any brand once those 72 hours were up until they disclosed those numbers. Since the movement’s launch last week, both massive and small brands have risen to the challenge, including Estée Lauder, Revlon, Glossier, Ulta and L’Oréal, to name a few Fighting for economic opportunities for black people
- Black Lives Matter – https://blacklivesmatter.com/
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Even as we struggle to transform the systems under which we live, meaningful reform is essential. The BLMLA Policy Team engages in local and statewide policy initiatives that disrupt practices of state violence.
Call your California state Senator now and ask them to vote yes on AB1460:
ANSWER: AB 1460 is a bill that would require the California State University system to implement ethnic studies courses at every campus by the 2021-22 school year. AB 1460 is a bill that would require the California State University system to implement ethnic studies courses at every campus by the 2021-22 school year. It would also require students to complete a 3-unit ethnic studies course in order to graduate, a requirement that will be applicable to students graduating in the 2024-25 academic year and beyond.
For more information about AB1460:
Groups Fighting Against Brutality & Systemic Racism:
The Bail Project™ National Revolving Bail Fund is a critical tool to prevent incarceration and combat racial and economic disparities in the bail system.
The Bail Project, Inc. is a non-profit organization designed to combat mass incarceration by disrupting the money bail system ‒ one person at a time.
We believe that paying bail for someone in need is an act of resistance against a system that criminalizes race and poverty and an act of solidarity with local communities and movements for decarceration. Over the next five years, The Bail Project will open dozens of sites in high-need jurisdictions with the goal of paying bail for tens of thousands of low-income Americans, all while collecting stories and data that prove money bail is not necessary to ensure people return to court. We won’t stop until meaningful change is achieved and the presumption of innocence is no longer for sale.
Imagine living in a world where authority is just
reform efforts and interventions are clear, there is investment in improving community interactions, and ensuring accountability while creating a space for generational trauma to be worked through
Dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLA works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality
Congressional Black Caucus Chair on Police Reform and Racial Profiling: https://www.c-span.org/video/?473035-1/congressional-black-caucus-chair-police-reform-racial-profiling
Obama Foundation Mission: Our mission is to inspire, empower, and connect people to change their world.
10. NAACP Legal Defense & Education Fund Inc. – https://www.naacpldf.org/
OUR MISSION: The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. LDF also defends the gains and protections won over the past 75 years of civil rights struggle and works to improve the quality and diversity of judicial and executive appointments. LDF is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization.
11. Strut Your Mutt: Lace up Leash Up. Save Lives:
We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals.
Share Our Strength
No Kid Hungry is a national campaign run by Share Our Strength, a nonprofit working to solve problems of hunger and poverty in the United States and around the world. After 25 years of successfully investing in local nonprofits and helping find the best approaches to eradicating poverty and hunger, Share Our Strength launched No Kid Hungry in 2010.
As a child hunger organization, ending childhood hunger is our primary focus, though Share Our Strength continues to invest in and develop other campaigns.
Learn more about Share Our Strength and our other work at ShareOurStrength.org.
Our Work: We address today’s most urgent environmental challenges by targeting issues that affect people around the world. Working in partnership with others, we focus where we’re best positioned to help, based on our strengths.
Reunite an immigrant parent with their child.
At RAICES, we defend the rights of immigrants and refugees, empower individuals, families, and communities, and advocate for liberty and justice.
We are the Refugee and Immigrant Center for Education and Legal Services, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit working to promote justice for all by providing free and low-cost legal services to underserved immigrant children, families, and refugees. While our footprint and legal services are Texas-based, we advocate for immigrant communities nation-wide and we have a national voice in the ongoing fight for immigrant rights.
The best place to learn more about RAICES is www.raicestexas.org.
On our site you can:
- Get the latest updates from our legal, social, advocacy teams.
- Learn how to become involved as a volunteer.
- Make a donation and support our work on behalf of immigrants and refugees seeking asylum.
- Sign on to the latest national advocacy actions to make lasting change on behalf of immigrant communities.
We Are Everytown for Gun Safety
Everytown is a movement of Americans working together to end gun violence and build safer communities. Gun violence touches every town in America. For too long, change has been thwarted by the Washington gun lobby and by leaders who refuse to take common-sense steps that will save lives.
But something is changing. Nearly 6 million mayors, moms, cops, teachers, survivors, gun owners, students and everyday Americans have come together to make their own communities safer. Together, we are fighting for the changes that we know will save lives.
Everytown starts with you, and it starts in your town.
17. Give Kids The World: https://www.gktw.org/
Give Kids The World Village is an 84-acre, nonprofit resort in Central Florida that provides weeklong, cost-free vacations to children with critical illnesses and their families.
The Village and its community partners provide children and their families accommodations in fully-furnished villas, transportation, tickets to theme parks, meals, daily entertainment and much more.
Each year 27,000 children in the United States are diagnosed with a critical illness. Half of all children eligible for a wish through a partnering wish-granting organization choose to visit Central Florida and its collection of theme parks and other attractions.
Our goal, quite simply, is to provide everything these deserving families need to make their trip the vacation of a lifetime. Since 1986, more than 175,000 children and families have had their dreams fulfilled in a whimsical Village unlike any other place on earth.
Sign the petition for change
What kind of issue are you petitioning on? Selecting a topic allows Change.org to recommend your petition to interested supporters.
19. Color of Change: https://colorofchange.org/
Color of Change is a progressive nonprofit civil rights advocacy organization in the United States. It was formed in 2005 in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina in order to use online resources to strengthen the political voice of African Americans.
20. Stand Your Ground States
It’s important to understand that even states that have stand your ground laws still have certain restrictions when it comes to using force in self-defense. For example, they may require that the threat of perceived harm is objectively reasonable and that the force used be proportional to the threat. Stand your ground laws may also require that the person using self-defense be at the location lawfully (no trespassing, for example) and not be the initial aggressor in the altercation.
States that have passed stand your ground laws include:
Note: Some states have adopted stand your ground-like doctrines through judicial interpretation of their self-defense laws — but they’re not included on this list.
States That Impose a Duty to Retreat
On the other end of the legal spectrum, some states impose a duty to retreat. A duty to retreat generally means that you can’t resort to deadly force in self-defense if you can safely avoid the risk of harm or death (by walking away, for example). If that’s not an option, say if you were cornered or pinned down and facing serious harm or death, then you would be authorized to use deadly force in self-defense.
It’s important to note that, even in duty-to-retreat states, there’s no duty to retreat from an intruder in your home. These states all adhere to some version of the castle doctrine as well.
Ask an Attorney About Stand Your Ground Laws in Your State
While some states let you stand your ground, in others you may be prosecuted for killing someone if you could have safely walked away from the confrontation. To learn more about self-defense laws in your state, contact a local criminal defense attorney.
21. Civil Rights Organizations Listed on the following link:
22. Operation Hope:
Sixty-three percent of middle-income Americans say they’re unable to afford a $500 car repair or a $1,000 emergency room bill.
The majority of Americans in undeserved communities live without financial opportunity, many in a generational cycle of poverty.
We’re on a mission to disrupt that. Here’s how.
Operation HOPE is a for-purpose organization working to disrupt poverty and empower inclusion for low and moderate-income youth and adults.
Our focus is ﬁnancial dignity and inclusion. We equip young people and adults with the ﬁnancial tools and education to secure a better future—coaching them through their personal aspirations and life’s challenges, and facilitating their journey to ﬁnancial independence.
Since 1992, we have been moving America from civil rights to “silver rights” with the mission of making free enterprise and capitalism work for the undeserved.
Our mission connects the legacy of the Freedman’s Bank, established by President Abraham Lincoln more than 150 years ago to integrate all Americans into our nation’s economic life, and the second part of Dr. Martin Luther King’s integration dream—the integration of the dollar, under the banner of “silver rights”—rights to ﬁnancial literacy, access to capital, and equity of opportunity, for all.
Project 5117 is our multi-year four-pronged approach to combating economic inequality that aims to improve ﬁnancial literacy, increase business role models and business internships for youth in underserved communities, and stabilize the American dream by boosting FICO scores. It includes educating ﬁve million youth through ﬁnancial dignity programs, empowering one million youth through entrepreneurial and career-building programs, establishing 1,000 HOPE Inside locations, and facilitating HOPE 700-Credit-Score-Communities across the nation.
23. Re-Entry Assistance and Advocacy for America’s Wrongfully Convicted listed below:
After Innocence provides reliable, efficient re-entry assistance for America’s wrongfully convicted, and advocates with exonerees for laws that provide them with meaningful compensation and effective re-entry support.
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Healing The Wounds Of Trauma, Inequality & Inspiring Solidarity.
Everyone Has A Darkside That Can Desire To Fly Into A Rage. Most People Don’t Act on it.
Mental Fitness and Dealing With Our Internal State Can Often Help Us Relate More Kindly And Honestly With Ourselves. We Can Then Choose Tp Work Through Ways We Treat And Think About Others. What We Fear, Often Can Become What We Misinterpret And Misunderstand And Distance Ourselves From. In Order To Be More Authentically And Honestly Connected, We Must Do The Inner Work And At Times Sit Quietly With The Impact Of What Is Happening Around And Within Us To Have Better Access To The Light And Goodness Inside Of Us. We Are Not Born To Hate. We Learn It Like Most Other Things We Know To Do.
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You And I Can Find The Light Together And View Our Brothers And Sisters Through A Clearer Lens. Earnest Conversations Help Us Get Closer To The Truth Inside Of Us About Who We Really Are As We Do The Work To Become Our Best And Highest Selves Doing Our Best And Highest Good.
“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
― Airman’s Odyssey
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We Become Our Highest Selves When We Seek Understanding, Love, Unity, And Clarity of Vision
A couple clarifying who they are individually and together before jumping the broom/entering into marriage can be one of the best things any couple can do for their relationship. If you have already said your vows, moved past the engagement, and said your I Do’s, you still have an opportunity to strengthen the emotional connection in your love life. we are going through one of the most challenging times our world has experienced in its lifetime with a Pandemic and the navigation of racial tensions and so much trauma and history to work through. It is those who choose to work through them that find the most love, unity, and strength to take into life and whatever challenges may come their way. You and our world can mend things. Love, unity, clarity. and understanding are powerful tools toward creating a space you can live with and more securely navigate through.
Genuine Love and Unity Go Hand And Hand. Hate Gets Extinguished By Standing Together Against Injustice And Owning Our Own Prejudices As We Work Through Them Individually, In Community, And Across Color Lines
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The moment we cross over color lines and stand together is the moment darkness and hate starts losing it’s power. This may not be easy, yet having the hard conversations that close the divide instead of widen it, standing together instead of in silence, inviting understanding instead of shutting down the conversation or turning away from it, all give power and rise to real change. You and I can be a part of creating this new history, yet to truly heal, we must deal with the old. And as an African American Therapist, my heart is to work with clients of any race without judgment, inclusive of their cultural and racial experience whether that experience comes from one of privilege or struck with racial harshness.
Your experience is valid and I welcome walking through the experience you may possess. At the end of the day, I just want to understand what’s important to you and how what you experience affects your emotional and relational life. I’m grateful to be a part of your healing through pain and hurts and repairing relationships that are important. I know of that and how to care for those walking that path.
The More We Go Through, The More Support We Need. It Can Make All The Difference. And We All Need It. Noone Is Meant To Walk This World Alone. And Even If We Are Not Alone, To Suffer In Silence. Building Our Mental Strength Is Still Important. Let Me Help You Continue On The Road To Cultivate Your Inner Strength And Lend You Support.
First Step: Call and schedule an appointment.
Here is where you can reach me: 323-676-1633
The Best part of what I get to do when working with clients is to walk alongside you to not only help you face some of the most hardest truths about what’s happening in your mind and heart, and to help you find your way through them. Perhaps you feel as though you are important to one person in this world or more. And perhaps you have been working on your life for some time on your own. It’s when we are in a place where we can find someone to help us face the hurdles to getting to ourselves and our best self, there is a chance to find our greatest strength and the life that we are our most authentic, empowered, connected, and creative in. I know of that and the strength, wisdom, security, and courage that can result.
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I am allowing myself to feel the impact of the present state of our world. I’m processing it all. My words are forming and I look to share them with you.
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What is one of your favorite things to be with when you have a quiet moment? Mine is being immersed in flowers (or reading something that interests me or breathing slow and easy just giving thanks for each breath, a simple prayer), creating a sweet, yet simple flower arrangement. Sometimes its just a matter of placing a few of my faves in a vase. It’s nice when i get to share them. And it brings me joy to do that. My favorite one is peony. I love that they usually come in a stem of 5. To me, its nice to imagine a simple flower growing in community like that. And I love their simple fragrance and the memories they bring.
At other times when quiet is near, I remember things like running a marathon a few years back and how so many supported that cause. At mile 19 I was told I would hit a wall. The wall never came. Instead I held the love and support of those who supported my run and the cause. Memories of them held me close in those moments, and I finished those 26.2 miles. They got me home and my press to meet them when I returned. I was running to honor my family members who in times past who passed away from cancer and I had an aunt who beat it. I was honoring their memory and fight as well as my own to defeat the 26.2 miles ahead of me and raise money for a good cause.
This was a moment that stretched me. These are the times where I hold both beautiful old memories and fresh new ones. They are the things that fill us and hold us as we walk day to day. And one of my newest memories was talking with my good friend Sandy for hours laughing, sharing, and inspiring one another and just checkin’ in. I’m still smiling just thinking about it and soon posting again to inspire you. I imagine you being held by memories that are both old and new for you even when physically we are worlds apart and you are the beholder to your memories and I mine. There is much to know about ourselves in the stillness. In the quiet. Let your heart speak to you to let you know what it needs. It will whisper. Be ever so still as you let this moment guide you to that truth. That’s right, just breathe.
Here are a few photos: It was my first time raising 3.6K for a good cause
Pepperdine University, my ama mater allowed me to hold a fundraiser at their main campuses.
It was Simply amazing.
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Falling Apart And Coming Together
I feel partnered with a consuming fascination, rather than a person I can find secure and steadfast love with. I struggle with knowing how to take in the increasing disagreement in our love that is coming my way, or how to give the love I know I have inside, I‘d do anything to stop second guessing myself and feeling I‘m making war instead of love. This dilemma leaves me wondering if we‘ll ever be able to find our way back to how we were in times past. I find myself trying to figure out what was different when it felt so much easier. This moment of nostalgia gives me pause, and a reason to fight to stay together. All I know is that our love really matters to me, and I chose my partner for life.
The reality of the conflict we‘re in now makes it harder and harder to believe I can find that ease in love again. Now, I either stay silent or just go along, doing my best to avoid unrelenting combat. I try to find understanding and truth, but I‘m met with silence and indifference in return. I‘m in a stalemate. My partner feels the same. This is how it starts when I become entangled in what disconnects us, the last thing I really want or need. I‘d rather find harmony with my beloved.
Often times we enter into a relationship only to feel down the line like it has become a partnership of one. Or maybe that‘s what it‘s been all along. I don‘t know anymore. One partner pulls the other, the other feels compelled to comply, without will, without choice. This disconsolate place is very rocky ground, and it makes me feel like I‘m losing myself and my partner. I wonder if the journey we took to find each other has simply run its course.
Or perhaps it‘s just reached a point where there‘s a chance for a new beginning.
Where are you and your partner today? Like so many couples, the two of you have found yourselves in the midst of a pandemic, with everything opening up around you including the space and distance you feel growing between. With each uneasy conversation or look of dis–ease, with each question that goes unanswered or words left unsaid, it becomes more unbearable. Your relationship is flatlining before your eyes, while the two biggest signs that are devouring what you‘ve built remain off your radar.
Emotional disconnection and lack of affection are the flashing red lights that a relationship is in trouble. Sound familiar? Have you felt disconnected for some time, blaming one another while wondering if you should blame yourself? A part of you may feel at fault, while another part is just exhausted and longing for the security of someone you can rely on. Maybe you feel you should have spoken up sooner or not been so silent. But it‘s hard to know what to say when the relationship has come to this point. You feel you‘ve given your all, and all you‘d like in return–something so hard to find now–is comfort. So you take a shower instead. It feels safer just to let the water wash the day away.
How we adapt to stressful circumstances depends on what we see as truth, and the best way to express that truth. Do you demand to be heard? Have you forgotten how to listen to someone else‘s truth? We behave our way to disconnection, although perhaps not intentionally. More and more, our truth and that of our partner don‘t seem to mirror one another. Each of us reads only the cues that trigger us, not what‘s driving the frustration that has built up over time, making it difficult to see the needs hidden beneath the angry words. That‘s how emotional disconnection grows.
Even in the best of times, love can be complicated, especially when there‘s no one to guide you when you‘re slipping away from one another. If you just had a road map, perhaps you could find your way back to one another. We often do better when we know a better way. And what we don‘t know can become potholes in the road, or a dead end. So much rides on finding the way back, and our compass isn‘t working. You‘re only doing what you know. A different conversation, one that comes with support and guidance, can help you find new solutions to bring you closer together again, to make your love stronger than ever before.
Maybe for the first time, you can start to see the real problems beneath the disconnect, so that you can begin to tackle them and find a lasting solution to your dilemma.
When we‘re at a loss for words but speak anyway, perhaps with unintended results, the foundation of love‘s fairy tale begins to shake. Especially now, in the midst of a pandemic, it may feel that there‘s no room or time for hearts to grow fonder in confined and constricted spaces. Love‘s nest has become consumed with all that consumes you both. You need a space to catch your breath and begin to believe in resolution and repair.
Your love can be strengthened when your communication becomes clearer and more loving. At the end of the day, it‘s up to each of you to decide whether that love is worth saving. This applies before or after “I do.”
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I am allowing myself to feel the impact of the present state of our world. I’m processing it all. My words are forming and I look to share them with you.